She wouldn't suddenly tense up, out of some nervous aversion to intimacy. She would never look away. She wouldn't be too busy smoking a goddamn cigarette to accept my hand. She would never be drunk and unable to concentrate. I think it was because, underneath all the laughter and the hugs and the warmth, we took our relationship very seriously.
And always, always, ALWAYS, if we asked what was on the other person's mind, they would tell us.
As far as I'm concerned, the phrase "I don't want to talk about it" is slow poison to a relationship. Over a thousand ICQ messages, countless emails, postcards, and written letters, and millions of spoken words, ex2 and I never said "I don't want to talk about it" a single time.
Please, people ... stop using that phrase. Whenever you're tempted to, discard it, and instead plunge forward into whatever it is you want to avoid. Because when you bring that out of yourself with words, and communicate it to someone else, you change it's shape within yourself ever so slightly.